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8 Special Tricks to Make Him Want You Intensely

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8 Special Tricks to Make Him Want You Intensely

Flirting is fun, but take it to the next level for more excitement. Are you in a back-and-forth situation with someone, and you’re looking to nudge him over the edge? Or are you in a committed relationship but are looking to amp things up? Regardless of your situation, there are various ways to ignite your guy. 

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Check out these tips and learn how to make a guy intensely desire you:

1. Use his name often.

It may sound simple, but people respond well to hearing their names. There’s a certain magic to using someone’s name to get their attention or stress a point. Even more enchanting than using a pet name. Instead of calling him boo bear, make eye contact and use his name. You may be shocked at the effect. 

2. Be direct.

Being demure and flirty is a tactic to arouse your man, and the complete opposite will work too. Looking your man in the eye and saying you want him is especially effective at turning him on. Do you want him to want you? Tell him so. Whether you’re new to each other or have known each other for years, a touch of directness goes a long way.

3. Have a genuine conversation.

Genuine Conversation

Believe it or not, having a sincere conversation can light a guy’s fire. When was the last time the two of you connected over a serious conversation? Put away distractions, turn on soothing music, get some wine, and connect with your eyes while you talk. 

Please don’t wait for an issue to discuss before having a deep conversation. It doesn’t have to be that way. You can certainly have a nice evening in just chatting about your day, the news, or whatever else is on your mind. Giving full attention to one another, sitting close on the couch, and chatting about anything and everything is arousing for men and women.

4. Send certain texts.

Whatever your current relationship is, send a saucy text message to excite a man quickly. Whether you’re in a long-distance relationship, or you’ve just seen each other the night before, spicy texts work. There’s nothing like getting a text and reading something a bit on the naughty side. It’s up to you if you want to include a picture, but the message doesn’t have to be graphic. Tell him what you liked about the last time you were together, text that you’re anticipating the next time you’ll meet, or what you might want to do. All of those words will immediately make him want you.

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5. Touch him.

Deliberate touch is really important in a relationship. The next time you’re together with a group, squeeze your guy’s leg under the table. Or reach over and play a game of footsie under the table? When you’re sitting at home together, grasp his hand and slowly rub it. Deliberate contact lets him know you’re enjoying his company, and it’s a subtle suggestion of where your mind is.

6. Be spontaneous.

When was the last time you were spontaneous together? Spontaneity is a great way to turn your guy on. There’s nothing sexier than a surprise. Here are a few impulsive things you can do:

  • Get last-minute tickets to a local sporting event.
  • Go ziplining.
  • Take a dance lesson.
  • Have a tech-free date together.
  • Get last-minute theater tickets.
  • Hit a photo booth and take playful pictures together.

It’s simple to search Google and find great ideas.

7. Wine and dine him

Turn the tables on your guy and treat him on a date. Pay the bill, or take charge if it’s unexpected. If you take over and determine to do something fun or unexpected in many dating situations, it can make a huge impression. If you’re out with a guy who is a friend and you want to be more than a friend, try buying him a drink. If you’ve been seeing a guy, bewilder him by planning a date or preparing his favorite take-out food. 

8. Be flirty.

Flirting is always arousing, even if you’ve been together for a long time. Flirting comes more naturally when you’re at the beginning of a relationship, but it’s still useful in older relationships. Flirt with your guy overtly and frequently.

How do you make him want you intensely?

More than anything else, be yourself and rely on your instincts. Everyone is different, so be creative with your twist on the suggestions above. You may be shocked at how effective they can be. 

Have courage and take a chance in your relationship!


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Sylvia McClure

Sylvia McClure, CRS is a relationship counselor from Aarhus, Denmark with over 12 years of experience.