Your Nonverbal Signals May be Driving Him Away

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Do you ever instantly get a feeling about someone you meet?

When it happens, you understand it’s not due to what he said or did. It’s a kind of signal you detect in his facial expression, tone of voice, or body language. 

Surprisingly, researchers have discovered that we are entirely accurate with these rapid judgments about other people.

The fact is, you sense things about people the second you meet them. And you respond to these tacit signals without thinking about it.

If you’re skilled at reading people, you may not be surprised to find that men and women notice separate kinds of cues when interacting with a possible mate.

Related: Reading his signals.

There is a particular signal you’re broadcasting to men all the time (whether you aware of it or not).

It’s likely not what you would anticipate. You see, there’s a distinct kind of body language men absolutely can’t overlook.

It’s a cue that can attract him by unleashing romantic emotions. Or it can push him away, based on how he reads your nonverbal signals.

VIDEO >> “One Wicked Little Trick” to make him long for you.

You Might be Shocked at the Cues in Your Body Language That Entice a Man

Women often want to learn what words make a man desire them. But the mystery of making him fall in love with you is more subtle.

In fact, your ability to send the right signals makes all the difference when it comes to enticing a good catch. If you’ve been attracting attention from the wrong kind of guys, I may be able to reveal to you why. You’re likely sending out a single very confusing sign…without even knowing it.

By sending the wrong cues, you end up with these bad results:

  • Attention from the wrong type of guys. The ones you don’t find attractive or interesting at all. 
  • The initial appeal that later vanishes with the one guy you truly wanted to attract.
  • A slow and painful end for the lure and passion in your current relationship.

But with a tiny adjustment, you could be signaling the right cue all the time. And you’d get results more like this:

  • A devotion that intensifies the longer you’re together.
  • A man who undoubtedly feels protective of you.
  • A profound feeling of intimacy as he lets you into his inner world.

The contrast can be profound. And it all begins with this one cue I’m about to reveal.

Picture yourself as a radio tower, always sending signals to the man in your life. And there’s one “channel” he can’t ignore. That’s because men have psychological receptors explicitly designed to detect this one kind of sign.

Ready to find out which signal I’m talking about?

He reads your signals to find out where you “rank him” compared with other men.

He interprets your silent language to discover how he measures up in your eyes.

  • “Does she respect me? Or am I just a toy?”
  • “Does she admire me in some ways?” 
  • “Does she treasure me compared to other men? Or is she just surrendering for an okay guy?”

Why are men so sensitive to this one signal? Because, strangely enough, the cue reveals to him how you compare him to other men. So it impacts how he feels about himself whenever he’s close to you.

Related: How to make him miss you like crazy.

And it’s incredible how much this one sign affects his feelings.

People don’t always directly tell us what we truly want to know, so we have to pay attention to subtle clues in nonverbal actions.

The clues define how we feel about the people we meet. And when it comes to romantic connections, it tells us far more than words.

What makes men feel desired is very different from what makes women feel desired. For example, research indicates men often entangle love and respect. A man doesn’t want only love without feeling you hold him in high regard compared with other men.

Otherwise, it just seems like maternal love. That’s not what he desires. It’s not the way he wants to see himself in his primary relationship. So, women who don’t appreciate this love and respect association often send mixed signals to the guy they’re interested in without even knowing it.

It happens by chance, and it’s not your fault. Society evolves too quickly for men and women to keep up with the rapid changes.

In most cultures, there were clear expectations. The expectations directed couples in connecting with a lifelong partner. Showing mutual respect was built into the courtship rituals. But those apparent expectations are no more. Now, everyone must devise their own paths, dancing around implied expectations and suspense.

And there’s something that frequently gets misplaced in our current version of romance. It’s the lost art of expressing desire through the vocabulary of respect. It’s where the saying, “You have an admirer,” came from. 

Your special guy doesn’t want you to settle. He wants to believe you see him as the ultimate prize above all others. Otherwise, it is deflated. And along with his deflated ego goes his passion for the relationship too. There is no way he sees himself with a woman who settled for him while secretly wanting someone else more than him.

But this is where things can really get confusing. Many women want to make their man feel loved. But a woman’s idea of loving communication is very different than a man’s. 

How do you express your genuine feelings to a man? And why are men so tuned in to subtle signals about where you rate him compared with other men?

Many of us have a tendency to buy gifts of the sort we would like to receive ourselves. It can be like that with love. We try to love our partner the way we want to be loved.

So you make him feel special. Yet he seems unaffected by that. You speak your own native love language to him. Apparently, he speaks another.

I hope you find happiness in love and life!


VIDEO >> “One Wicked Little Trick” to make him long for you.

Sylvia McClure

Sylvia McClure, CRS is a relationship counselor from Aarhus, Denmark with over 12 years of experience.


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