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Is He Cheating on You? 7 Subtle Clues

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Is He Cheating on You? 7 Subtle Clues

Cheating is the quickest way to destroy a relationship or marriage; it is already considered a betrayal of the vows you took when you got married. A wandering heart can either destroy the marriage or make it better, depending on your love for one another. Cheating generally means that he is not fully satisfied with your relationship, or he feels that the excitement is missing in the relationship.

If you were completely in love and happy within your relationship, why would he have an affair? Trust is a big reason–not of your partner, but yourself. Probably for some time, you have sensed something is different or questioned the change of behavior in your partner. Nobody deserves to be cheated on, no matter what state your marriage is in. If you believe your partner is having an affair, now is the time to check it out and do a little investigation just to be sure.

What signs tell me he might be cheating?

In brief, you can begin by looking for noticeable changes. Watch for differences in the way your partner dresses like a sudden desire to look good. Watch for a shift in work patterns, an unusual interest in the gym, or secrecy over phone calls or emails. Notice if you have a loss of intimacy, lack of sexual attraction, or distance between you that never used to exist. In the worst case, you may spy on him.

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Here is a more detailed explanation of indications that your partner is having an affair:

1. Changes in appearance and attitude.

Lately, your partner has a sudden preoccupation with his appearance. He is more interested in his personal grooming. He signs up for a gym and regularly goes there, even if this wasn’t his main priority before.

2. Reduced intimacy.

Suppose you used to share everything with him in the past, and now he seems distanced and clams up when you try to discuss intimate things. In that case, it could mean that he has already distanced himself emotionally and mentally from you. He’s suddenly distant and loses any interest in doing anything with you.

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3. He’s being secretive.

He’s no longer sharing his daily events with you. Maybe he avoids you because he feels guilty. Don’t get paranoid and suspicious. Ask him if everything is ok and tell him you notice he’s been acting differently lately.

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4. Disinterest in greeting you.

If he is no longer excited to meet you at the door from work, there must be a problem here. Or when your partner feels the sudden need to go out, try to find a reason to accompany him. If he gives you an explanation that he had to go on his own, press the issue, not too much, but just enough to see if he becomes more uncomfortable.

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5. Less arguing and fighting.

Your partner used to get angry if you didn’t want to make love, but now everything you do is all right by him. This could be a good thing, but you wonder why he no longer cares.

6. More time on the phone and the internet.

Lately, he talks a lot on the phone using a low voice or whisper and hangs up quickly. Maybe you discover that he set up a new email account and didn’t tell you about it.

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Watch out because he might buy a disposable cell phone and not let you know. Ask him if he’s is being true to you, and if he becomes accusatory, then it is apparent that he’s cheating you.

7. He’s late more often.

In the past, he never came home late, but now this happens more and more. His explanation is that he had to stay more at the office because he has a lot of work. Or he goes out and comes home four hours later. This is really a reason to worry. Cheating spouses often look and act guilty, give a general feeling that something isn’t right. They try and avoid meaningful conversations, keep everything at a broad and non-intimate level.

I wish the best for you in love and life!


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Sylvia McClure

Sylvia McClure, CRS is a relationship counselor from Aarhus, Denmark with over 12 years of experience.