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6 Scientifically Proven Ways to Attract a Man’s Love
According to M. Gary Neuman, a psychotherapist, and author, there are six scientifically proven steps you can take to sharpen your chances of friendship blossoming into something more. Make him love you!
1. Maintain eye contact.
According to research by Harvard psychologist Zick Rubin, couples who are deeply in love gaze at each other while chatting 75 percent of the time. So, you should be confident about eye contact when you talk with the object of your affections. It’s tempting to be coy and shy, but don’t be. Instead, smile a lot and make eye contact a lot.
2. Be interested in him as a person.
Listen closely to everything he says and show interest by smiling and nodding your head. According to research by the University of Nevada and the University of Washington, being a great listener is an enormous part of attracting someone to fall in love with you.
Neuman says people relish it when others exhibit a keen interest in them and don’t change the conversation. He suggests asking follow-up questions and responding with interest to what the other person is saying.
3. Make him feel appreciated and special.
Neuman explains that 48 percent of couples he’s talked to complain about not feeling appreciated by their partner. So then, if your guy feels that you appreciate everything he does and everything he is, they’re far more likely to feel an intense attraction to you.
What’s the best way to capture his appreciation? It’s a little complicated, but this video makes it simple.
What is the hidden emotional need in every man’s heart that leaves him feeling constantly unsatisfied?
How can you satisfy this need and gain his undying love?
4. Smile a lot.
According to a research report from Drake University, smiling amplifies your attractiveness and bolsters how engaging you appear. It makes your appeal surge, so you look like a winner. A simple smile boosts how hot and confident you look to any guy you’re hoping will become yours.
5. Touch him more often.
Neuman explains that touching your man increases your feeling of comfort and intimacy with him. All those light arm touches you feel compelled to initiate when your guy is around hugely work in your favor.
6. Embrace what a man is most passionate about.
Neuman asserts that when we talk about something we’re really passionate about, we’re often sharing a vulnerable part of ourselves. If you can appreciate that thing a man loves, he’s drawn to be mad about you in return.
I wish for an amazing love life, happiness, and health to you!
P.S. Watch this amazing video to learn about a hidden, emotional need in a man’s heart that leaves him feeling constantly unsatisfied. Most men don’t realize what it is, and that it’s tied to the quality of their relationships. Once you make it “click” for you, he’ll go overboard to prove his love for you.
Rubin, Z. (1970). Measurement of romantic love. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 16(2), 265–273. https://doi.org/10.1037/h0029841
Reis HT, Lemay Jr EP, Finkenauer C. Toward understanding: The importance of feeling understood in relationships. Social and Personality Psychology Compass. 2017:11(3):e12308. doi:10.1111/spc3.12308 – You value his point of view and abilities
Harry’s Masculinity Report (2018) https://s3.amazonaws.com/harrys-cdnx-prod/manual/Harry%27s+Masculinity+Report%2C+USA+2018.pdf – Men are happiest when a part of something where they feel needed and valued.
Anderson, Cameron & Hildreth, John & Howland, Laura. (2015). Is the Desire for Status a Fundamental Human Motive? A Review of the Empirical Literature. Psychological bulletin. 141. 10.1037/a0038781. – Male need for respect.
Murray, S. H., Milhausen, R. R., Graham, C. & Kuczynski, L. (2016). A Qualitative Exploration of Factors That Affect Sexual Desire Among Men Aged 30 to 65 in Long-Term Relationships. Journal of Sex Research, DOI: 10.1080/00224499.2016.1168352 – Men want to feel wanted and needed.
Terri D. Fisher, Zachary T. Moore, Mary-Jo Pittenger. Sex on the Brain?: An Examination of Frequency of Sexual Cognitions as a Function of Gender, Erotophilia, and Social Desirability. Journal of Sex Research, 2012; 49 (1): 69 DOI: 10.1080/00224499.2011.565429 – Men think about biological needs (e.g. Hero Instinct) more than women.
Gender Differences in Implicit Self-Esteem Following a Romantic Partner’s Success or Failure,” Kate A. Ratliff, Ph.D., University of Florida, and Shigehiro Oishi, Ph.D., University of Virginia; Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, online Aug. 5, 2013. – Men have lower self-esteem when their partner succeeds and they fail (i.e. they don’t feel needed/irreplaceable).
Canevello A, Crocker J. Creating good relationships: Responsiveness, relationship quality, and interpersonal goals. J Pers Soc Psychol. 2010;99(1):78-106. doi:10.1037/a0018186 – Showing him you believe in him and he’s the one for the job.